By reading the title, one would certainly gather images that create a macho man schema – what women are really looking for. In truth, this piece uses a feminist approach to explain what most women want, as well as a matter in which they refuse and reject to gain awareness.
A man is one whom we describe using great masculine characteristics externally, meanwhile we explain his interior as though he is a woman. We explain his interior as one who is not afraid of displaying weakness, sharing his fears and tears. His interior resembles the gender norms of a woman – the way in which women identify themselves privately and publicly. He is who the woman believes she must be in her community, with her children, and even with his colleagues. She shows compassion and understanding. She is patient and able to provide support to all groups. She is the sex that gives. Whether women can accept it or not, we are in search for a man who possesses and produces feminine beliefs and behaviours. Women are in search of who is under the male ego – an individual who believes in equality. An individual who treats his woman as though she is not only a lover, but also a partner, one he shares his physical space with, one who he makes agreements with over mutual matters, one who rejects patriarchal beliefs.
This does not convey that women do not search for macho qualities of domination, moral integrity, jealousy, men of honour, physical strength, etc. The search for external masculinity is, long-term, in a woman’s favour publicly and socially.
Farah Kouatli